It is easy to get distracted on social media. People visit social media sites with the intention of spending a few minutes and end up spending hours. If you want social media to be a smooth and focused experience check out these social media donts.
Don’t Reply To Disrespect With Disrespect
Conversations which begin with disrespect don’t usually end well. However, countering this by showing love often makes people rethink negative statements. Another way of circumventing negative interactions on social media is simply not to reply at all. In the past I would reply to disrespectful statements with love and kindness but now I seldom reply. I hardly get disrespectful messages these days anyway. Moreover, engagement in other meaningful pursuits has reduced my time on social media and subsequently curtailed negative encounters. I want the little time I spend there to be positive and informative.
Don’t Take Things Personal
Take the jokes, wisdom, knowledge, news but take nothing personal.
Don’t Use Social Media First Thing In The Morning
Make your first activity wholesome and organic – like yoga, meditation, taking a walk, a conversation with a loved one, mindfully eating, bonding with your plants and animals. Don’t just rush to an electronic screen first thing in the morning.
Don’t Use Social Media Right Before Bed
Make your final activity for the day something wholesome and organic. Something that can help you sleep peacefully. Do something that allows you to release all the things you may have absorbed that didn’t belong to you.
Don’t Use Social Media As The Only Source Of Information
There’s authentic information on there but there’s also a lot of misinformation and/or disinformation. Take it all with a grain of salt and check other sources.
Tom
All very good points to follow. Thanks for the reminder. I need these from time to time.
Jaja Wallace
Yes it is important to remind ourselves that social media platforms are designed to be addictive.
SUDARSHAN PALIWAL
Wonderful post
Jaja Wallace
Thanks, glad you found it helpful.
melanie calloway
Great advise, especially that of not taking someone’s rant personally. One can save themselves a world of anxiety by turning off the unsolicited chatter and tuning in to that which matters most.
Jaja Wallace
Very true, mental health must take priority.
Belladonna
Wisdom!!!! Right on time for this post. Thank you for the tips
Jaja Wallace
Divine timing.
Belladonna
That’s definitely it!
Jonathan Caswell
THERE YU GO! 😀
Krishna
Well said dear Jaja 🙂
Jaja Wallace
Good to hear from you dear friend.
ShiraDest
Is it bad when I see “donts” and I think “donuts” 🙂
Jaja Wallace
It’s not bad, I probably should’ve used an apostrophe haha.
ShiraDest
I think you did use an apostrophe! I just want a donut! 🙂
ShiraDest
Oh! I see what you mean! 🙂
Jaja Wallace
It’s amazing how words can trigger things.
emergingfromthedarknight
Very sane advice.. ignoring silly hurtful things is sometimes the very best way..
Jaja Wallace
Indeed, our attention is powerful, it’s best to be selective with it.
Two quotes that help me when faced with conflict are:
“This too shall pass”
&
“If it doesn’t matter in 5 years don’t spend more than 5 minutes thinking about it.”
emergingfromthedarknight
That reminds me of this one “How important is it?” As you said in 5 years we will look back and see how trivial a concern truly was.
*p.m. six
You’ve shared some great advice, and I think that you’ll really help people get more out of social media.
I’ve narrowed down my social media to a couple poetry sites, and focused now on building my own site. I was very interested in Instagram but I’m not happy with the results after investing a lot into the platform.
I’d rather invest in myself now, over be a part of something so wide-reaching that it’s beyond my control to the narrowest degrees.
Jaja Wallace
Yes we have to be mindful when using social media to promote our brand, product or services. Many people pour so much creative energy into social media and get little or nothing in return. It’s good to have strategy and set healthy time limits when using those platforms as outlets for promotion.
When your site is ready feel free to post the link.
Jaja Wallace
Oh I found the link in your gravatar profile, It wasn’t in your username.
Cool site.
*p.m. six
Thank you for checking my stuff out, I hope we get to know each other’s work more in time. Happy holidays and I’ll be seeing you. 🙂
DiosRaw
Fascinating work. Amber 🙏
Jaja Wallace
Thank you Amber.
DiosRaw
Most welcome. How long have you been on WordPress? Amber 🙏
Jaja Wallace
I created kindfeelings in 2010 but the site wasn’t using wordpress, I installed it on December 2013.
How about you?
DiosRaw
Ah, ok. I joined three months ago and deleted a previous blog of one year before I started this one.
What about WordPress do you like the most?
Amber
Jaja Wallace
I will check out more of your blog as I progress on my journey.
I deleted most of my social media last year December.
The thing I like the most is that it makes blogging easier. What do you like best about it?
DiosRaw
Thank you for connecting! Good to hear you let go of social media, do you feel better for it?
I love spreading love, awareness, discovering and learning new things, sharing my research and study, it is my therapy! Amber
Jaja Wallace
I don’t feel better or worse I feel the same I am grateful for social media but unbothered if I don’t have it.
I had a twitter account with over 20K followers and it got suspended, I spent years building up that account however the suspension did not erase all the connections I made. I tried to get back my account but filed. After that I created another account and grew up to 10K followers and one day when I logged in it was locked and I did what was required to open it. However later that day I just lost all interest and deleted it. That was last year and I haven’t been back since. I’m glad because it was before all this corona stuff.
The same for facebook, my facebook page had about 10K likes but I just lost interest and deleted it.
If I return to social media it will be a video platform like YouTube or Bitchute where people can see me and have a deeper connection. I’ll save the writings for my website.
aruna3
Nice article.beautifully written🌷
Jaja Wallace
I’m glad you found it helpful.
aruna3
Most welcome,dear!!
aruna3
Welcome ,dear for your nice post.
Jaja Wallace
🙏🏿💚
Renard Moreau
🙂 I love the idea of not using social media the first thing in the morning.
Prayer, yoga and meditation have priority over social media.
Jaja Wallace
Gone are the days when I would pick up my phone first thing in the morning and check social media. That was a fun period in my life but I’ve matured.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, peace to you. 🙏🏿
seekingdivineperspective
Good advice! In the morning I try to minimize communication with anyone until I’ve communicated with God, and social media right before bed can kill a good night’s sleep.
Jaja Wallace
That’s a wholesome approach. The fist thing we do in the morning and the last thing we do before sleep have great influence on us.
Cindy Georgakas
Love this! Good points and great to meet you! Thanks for the follow! I am now following you!!! 💕
Jaja Wallace
🙏🏿Thank you, 🙏🏿I’m glad you find it helpful. Discovering your blog was a pleasant surprise.
Cindy Georgakas
Yes, for sure. You’re most welcome. I do like your posts very much. Glad you stumbled on mine and enjoyed as well! ❤️🙏
Markus + Micah
Love your list, especially skipping social media before bed. Heaven knows how many nightmares we would save if only we follow this diligently. Haha!
Jaja Wallace
Exactly, it’s best to make the activity before sleep something positive.
gifted50
You are right on the money. I sometimes get distracted myself and stay on a lot longer than I should.
Jaja Wallace
Because social media algorithms are designed to addict and influence us, being able to use them in moderation is a true testament for self discipline.
gifted50
Happy holidays my friend! Stay blessed and safe.
Jaja Wallace
Thank you friend, have a happy holidays as well.
gifted50
Merry Xmas!!
Jaja Wallace
Thank you, I hope you had a lovely Xmas as well., May 2021 be a magical year for us.
gifted50
From your lips to God’s ears.
ceridwensilverhart
Good advice! I’ve been able to avoid using social media in the morning, but I do have a tendency to use it close to bedtime. I need to set a stricter schedule with that.
Jaja Wallace
Changes come in stages.
We get wiser throughout the ages. 🙏🏿
Thilo
Now that was a good post which did coincide with my own internal process.
This corona-year was a huge internall struggle in terms of how I would continue my blog-work:
First when Corona started I did attempt to pull up people by inspiring them to meditate together, but that backfired really harsh in my face, because the way people panicked made them question any detail in nervosity and therewith sabotaging the sanctuary I intended to build.
In the end instead of serving as a steady rock in the thunderstorm, I empathically caught their turmoil which then was aggravated by all the troubles in the world, like the explotion in Beirut and the ongoing ones in the USA.
Then I was very strongly torn apart between totally deleting my website or dishing out all meditation information for free in order to leave it for seekers whilst then walking away from it. What really did frustrate me was the little fruit I saw coming out of 6 years of blogging work – neither in other people meditating, nor in me earning more than a handful of donations from it. The worst was that of the very few I did motivate two came out in some selfish or arrogant way, so I got the feeling that I seem to have missed the point of my quarter of a century endeavour to help people with their spiritual ascension by promoting my yoga-meditation.
In the end I chose a comromise: To leave everything in the web but instead of answering each mailquestion with great care, to sell a structured course people have to walk through before getting the right to answer my questions.
This way I guarantee that people are interested, then participate, and also don’t ask me the same questions over and over again.
Another aspect was that social networking (my blog being the last resort after having cut of all other networks) made me feel naked and I wanted to protect myself from that never ending umbilical cord to the outside via the web. Hence I also changed my theme to a difficult to reach mountain monastery to literally give the entire site a less mundane chatty feeling but focus on the dedication to our higher divine.
By winter solstice I intend to have completed the last finetunings and then want to get back to morning meditation again in a restart, because this is when saturn will permanently shift to aquarius, so we all should have a unique opportunity to evolve within the next 3 years and the 3 years after when it moves to pisces.
I think the coronavirus as such was not necessary what did cause our troubles – the spiritual shifts did which in turn may have contributed to the covid-manifestations forcing us to look at blunt reality – and whilst putting masks on – taking our own ego-masks of.
Jaja Wallace
Yes we have to be careful not to give away too much of ourselves on social media. Moderation is key.
Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience.
Anne
Well said!
Jaja Wallace
✌🏿Thanks
Raw Writings (Thor and Tamara)
Excellent tips that are immensely beneficial to me; thank you!
Jaja Wallace
I’m glad you find it helpful, moderation is so important when we use social media.
mildredprincewelch
“Social Media isan extention of Psychology 101.”
_-Van Prince
Jaja Wallace
You are so right. It has been described as a big psychological experiment.
mildredprincewelch
100%-to-360-degrees
Sam "Goldie" Kirk
Good advice. I follow most of those myself. The only one I’m on the fence about is not responding to certain comments.
Jaja Wallace
Yes sometimes it is not easy to walk away from disrespectful comments, after all we are emotional beings. For me it was challenging at first but over time I observed that things went better when I didn’t respond or responded calmly. Even when it didn’t feel better at first in the long run things worked out for the best.
It’s great that you’re doing the others.
Kally
You’re right on point.
Jaja Wallace
Always grateful for your insights.
DiosRaw - Amber
Hi, hoping you are well. I wanted to let you know that WordPress has blocked my liking function and I am forever blocked from liking any posts. It is very sad and they give me no reason except that I am a spam bot and not a human being. I will appreciate your work by commenting from time to time. Much love and best wishes. ❤🙏
Jaja Wallace
I’m grateful for your comments and the content you post on your site. Thank you for promoting wholesome values and freedom. I was checking your site for links to other social media but didn’t see any. If you join any other socials let me know and if I’m on there I’ll follow you. 🤍🙏🏿
DiosRaw - Amber
Hi, thank you for your kind words. Your site is awesome. You are very welcome my friend. I don’t have social media, but if you’d like to collaborate on a post sometime let me know. Amber 🙏❣
Jaja Wallace
Thanks for the offer and yes I’ll definitely let you know.
DiosRaw - Amber
Awesome. Take care. ❣
People Life Politics And Bullshit
So true. I agree with all your reflections on this matter.
Jaja Wallace
I’m grateful that we are learning how to use social media responsibly at such an early stage.
Thilo
First a word to kindfeelings and Amber:
I thoroughly read both of your stories and am impressed how the both of you manage to transform old karmic residual stuff towards the light! I think all the tragic stuff happening to us is a result of us changing course and starting to deal with old unresolved stuff (likely from past likes or ancestors – however you want to look at it).
And about the cookie-thing, Amber: I realised that a lot of issues on other wordpress sites which do have their own domain, like kindfeelings.com do stem from me not having allowed cookies.
Since I did set my firefox to always delete cookies after closing it, I have to allow those at the bottom of the screen first thing, before commenting or liking and sometimes have to refresh the page afterwards in order to make it work.
Maybe this could help in your case also.
Jaja Wallace
I wholeheartedly agree. In order to clean a house you have to get it more untidy by rearranging the furniture.
Thilo
You seem to be well on the path, because I can see in your photo that you could have descended into an angry path but managed to transform your force into something higher.
I totally underestimated the residual rubbish I do carry in me, believing that it would be possible to reach enlightenment within one lifetime.
However, the good news is that today a tremendous shift in consciousness will happen when Saturn (on this winter solstice today) will shift from capricorn to aquarius, ushering in the aquarian age!
You can see how powerful that shift is, because the back&forth shift this year seems to coincide with the coronavirus, BLM and the Beirut-explosion.
This is the chance to make an own private ritual and visualise what we want to accomplish within those auspicios next 3 years, followed by another good 3 years of it moving into pisces.
Jaja Wallace
I am a strong believer in private rituals, we all should tap into our unique magic.
Yes I could have descended down an angry path, one of the things that saved me was learning that ejaculation and orgasm are two different things and they can be separated during sex or masturbation. I am grateful that I can use this knowledge to preserve my life force and get stronger. This year I gained a greater mastery over my sexual energy.
My break from social media is what helped me to have this breakthrough, it also helped me to cut many unhealthy attachments.
Quizholics
Here’s another one;
Don’t always act on the feedback you receive over social media. more than half of the feedback you get is totally uneccessairy and won’t help your business on the long run. Learn to filter useful from “just good” feedback.
Jaja Wallace
Thank you for this tip, also if our business gets really big we can hire social media managers and use automation to help us. Learning to be concise when communicating will save us time as well.
K E Garland
This is good advice. I need to practice not looking at social media as soon as I wake up.
Jaja Wallace
Yes social media can wait, mornings hours are precious.
Neil
Wise words sir
Jaja Wallace
Thanks Neil
Troy Headrick
I’ve completely gotten off of social media. I found that it was providing me with the opportunity (and excuse) to be angry. It was shouting, saying things that I shouldn’t say. It was turning me into a ugly version of who I am. So I dropped out. Plus, there is too much chatter in this world. Too many voices. It’s all cacophony. We need more quiet places.
Jaja Wallace
Many social media platforms are designed to be addictive, so yes it is sometimes necessary to completely remove ourselves so our minds can reprogram.
I’m glad you’re in a more peaceful space.
utahan15
true that. i feel amputated as my twitter is in suspension. due to my being well not as you suggested.
Jaja Wallace
Sorry to hear that, I have gotten my account suspended in the past, perhaps the suspension is a blessing in disguise. I haven’t been on there since 2019 and I’ve been much more productive and happier.
utahan15
i know, it is time to move on.
Stuart Danker
The first point is so true. I’ve seen great things happen when people treat disrespect with kindness. And if we remember than other people’s hate is more a reflection of them than ourselves, then it becomes easier to do this. Thanks for sharing!
Jaja Wallace
Replying to disrespect with love is a sign of true strength.
Keep radiating kindness, peace and love to you.
Lia
Really helpful reminders. Thanks for sharing. :))
Jaja Wallace
I’m glad you found it helpful Lia, thanks for stopping by.
Valerie Cullers
Excellent! We can all benefit from this advice no matter what our age or how long we have been using social media!
Jaja Wallace
I’m glad you find it useful, social media is helpful when used wisely.
da-AL
very true!
Jaja Wallace
Thanks for stopping by. 🙏🏿