When people hear you criticize porn they automatically assume you’re against masturbation but that is not always the case. Masturbation can increase or drain your sexual energy depending on how it is done. Healthy masturbation circulates and multiplies your sexual energy while masturbation with porn drains your sexual energy. It is important to know what you are doing and who you are giving your energy to.
Healthy Spiritual masturbation requires you to look within yourself and unlock a deeper level of love. It is less about external visuals and more about your own feelings and sensations. Masturbation with porn forces you to look outside of yourself and gives your power to porn stars you have no connection with.
In order to be aware of the various levels of arousal you need to look within yourself and pay attention to your body. Paying attention to something external is a distraction.
Keep Your Energy Inside
In Spiritual disciplines like Taoism students are taught to close their eyes and masturbate. They are trained to keep sexual energy inside of themselves and circulate it. They are trained to explore within and not fixate on fantasy. In masturbation aided by porn part of your attention goes to an electronic screen, audio or magazine which prevents you from fully exploring the various levels of arousal within yourself. If you are not sensitive to the various levels of arousal you cannot circulate your sexual energy internally.
Your Subconscious and Unconscious Mind
Porn influences the subconscious and unconscious mind. Some people are so addicted they cannot feel any sexual arousal without porn. Every day the technology and psychology powering porn gets more advanced. Many addicts try to break free but their minds are trained to react to triggers that send them back to porn sites. Triggers can be almost anything in the environment.
Real Sex
Healthy masturbation makes you better at real sex by helping you to understand and control yourself. One who understands himself sexually can focus on pleasing his partner in bed.
What Is Healthy Masturbation?
It is masturbation where you focus internally to gain a greater understanding of self. No pictures, no videos, no audios just you exploring yourself.
talesofawannaberedhead
Really important blog, the sex positive porn industry is beautiful but unfortunately lacks the money because people are too obsessed with the crappy free shit! @tantrapunk does a beautiful podcast on thi
Jaja Wallace
I’m grateful you made this comment because I plan to write an article in the near future about watching porn and sex educational videos for the purposes of enhancing your relationships.
I’ll check out tantrapunk 👍✔
Ben Rosen
I completely agree. Tantra masturbation really interests me and I’m learning to use the sexual energy I have.
Jaja Wallace
It’s great that you are learning about your sexual energy, keep exploring and going deeper within yourself. I wish you happiness and good health. The world of Taoism and Tantra is unbound and unlimited.
These are a few good reads:
The Multi-Orgasmic Man by Chia Mantak
Healing Love Through The Tao – Cultivating Female Sexual Energy by Chia Mantak
Taoist Secrets of Love Cultivating Male Sexual Energy by Chia Mantak
Awaken Healing Energy through the Tao by Chia Mantak
Sexual Secrets The Alchemy of Ecstasy
Ben Rosen
Thank you!!! I will check these out.
25, Black, and Alive
I know about Taoism but never practiced masturbation in this form. As a matter of fact I completely gave it up years ago. I am doing a full body detox and in doing it my lady and I have decided to refrain from sex. I want to master all of my energy on all levels. If I learn to master my sexual energy. I will be unstoppable (even tho I already am lol).
Jaja Wallace
Detox is a good idea. When external pleasure is removed we are forced to stop seeking outside of ourselves and look deeper within. After a while we become more aware of the subtle sensations within our bodies. When we become aware of the subtle energies and sensations within ourselves external things become magnified. Food tastes sweeter, music is louder, sex is more pleasurable. The increased sensitivity makes us enjoy life on a higher level.
Occasionally abstaining from external pleasure and going internal is necessary to prevent becoming numb in this overstimulated world.
A fast from sex is more effective when combined with a fast from music and movies. This is because you might overindulge in them as compensation for not having sex.
In ancient times holy men and women went into isolation and deprived themselves of pleasure to unlock higher energy centers within themselves.
May you and your lady emerge happier, healthier and stronger from the detox.
25, Black, and Alive
I appreciate your wisdom brother. I have abstained from all forms of media. I want to be completely cleansed and clear minded.
Jaja Wallace
You are on the right path,
JACKEY akinyi
I am reading this in 2020 and it is very educating. Thank you for writing this.
Jaja Wallace
You’re welcome Jackie, sexual energy is powerful and sacred.