Porn Addiction: Using Relapse And Technology To Get Stronger And Wiser

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Even though it is not taken seriously by the medical establishment, people all over the world struggle with porn addiction. The shame addicts feel and the fact that it is not taken seriously makes them reluctant to get help. Thankfully, with the help of online resources and with a little self discipline you can be free of this self sabotaging addiction.

The Industry Is Designed To Be Addictive

The consumption of porn is world wide. According to a 2015 NBC report porn is a $97 billion industry. A lot of money goes into research on how to get people hooked. It is designed to turn people into addicts and it is overtly and covertly integrated into almost every aspect of western society. Much of the content in magazines, books, movies, video games, novels, cartoons and comics contain indirect and direct messages that program your subconscious to seek out porn.

Porn addiction is one of the most difficult addictions to overcome because it exploits sexual desire which is one of the strongest human desires. Part of the difficulty in overcoming this addiction has to do with the reluctance of the mainstream medical fraternity to accept it as an authentic addiction. Hopefully the establishment will take it seriously one day. In the meanwhile there are helpful online communities.

Group Support

Porn addicts often feel isolated and ashamed because they have nobody to talk to about their addiction.
Online resources like NoFap provide group support for porn addiction while YourBrainOnPorn provides advice that you can apply in real life to free yourself.

Apps

Mobile phones and computers are porn portals for the addict. A porn addict trying to use his phone constructively is like a sugar addict going into a pastry store to only buy bread. Since discarding the phone may not be a viable option, why not install a few applications that will help you conquer your problem.

Apps can’t solve everything but they help remind you to stay focused whenever you use your phone. If you have an android phone search Google App Store for porn addiction where you’ll find many results. Have fun testing them until you find what works for you. Two outstanding apps are NF Companion and Sober Time.

NF Companion

NF Companion is an app that you can use to count the days you have been free from porn. It also offers badges. The further you progress the more badges you get. There is also an emergency and motivation section for urgent situations. Some features of the app work offline and other features require an internet connection. They also have a community you can join to get additional support.

The app is free but you have to pay to unlock additional features like the clock widget.

Sober Time

Unlike NF Companion, Sober Time is not specifically designed for porn addicts but is a flexible app that you can use to motivate you to get off any addiction. You can use the app to set goals for yourself when you’ve reached certain milestones.

Sober Time has a beautiful user interface and allows you to change the background.

These apps are very helpful and can serve as reminders to stay focused whenever you decide to use your phone to look at porn.

Using Relapse To Get Stronger

Instead of seeing relapse as negative use it to learn more about your weaknesses and triggers. Whenever you relapse, carefully retrace and examine all the steps that led you to that point. Examine what you were doing before and what distractions brought you there. When you learn to recognize these patterns you can stop yourself whenever you’re going in that direction again.

Be mindful of actions leading to other actions which culminate in a relapse. The initial action might seem harmless but if it is not constructive activity it might lead to a relapse.

Keep a journal and whenever you find yourself relapsing write down the actions that lead you to that point. Then write down what you could have done differently. Think about how you were feeling at the time, think about what was missing and what gap you were trying to fill.

Failure to mindfully examine what led up to that point will see you making the same mistakes.

De-stress

Long deep stretching and yoga releases tension from the body making sexual energy more manageable. Also exercise your PC muscle regularly and massage it in a circular motion in both directions.

Be Humble

Humility will get you far. It is dangerous to get overconfident once you start going a long period without porn. Once you get overconfident it is easy to relapse.

Some persons after having gone a few weeks or months without porn become critical of others whom they feel are too weak to break free. This overconfidence may cause the recovering addict to prematurely abandon practices which facilitate freedom from the addiction.

If you find yourself thinking that you don’t need to continue taking certain precautions or find yourself harshly criticizing others who are in a place you once were be careful because you might just slip back to that place. The sunken place.

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