Why am I so angry? Is it worth it? When on the brink of anger ask yourself these questions. Failure to analyze anger will result in reckless behavior. Anger without analysis is like opening a fire hydrant; the flow is forceful and difficult to stop. With control and proper analysis it becomes like a faucet.
The things you say and do when angry are very important. Too often people have gone to jail, lost their jobs, relationships and friendships because they were not able to control their anger.
Like other emotions, anger has negative and positive aspects. Anger was the driving force behind many revolutions throughout history that led to freedom. Anger brings attention to suffering and may motivate people to do something about their circumstances.
Sometimes when a friend gets angry and starts swearing the best thing to do is give him space. If he isn’t causing physical damage let him blow off steam. We must be mindful of how we tell others not to be angry. People should not be made to feel guilty or ashamed for venting anger in reaction to injustice.
People internalize their anger and suffer silently in societies that oppress them. Silent suffering caused by repressed anger can lead to implosion or explosion later down the road. Both scenarios can be avoided if the issue is dealt with in the present. It is not fair for people to suffer without complaint while carrying on with life pretending that everything is okay.
If the actions or statements of a person make you uncomfortable speak out. State your displeasure in a firm serious tone without crossing over into the theatrics of screaming and shouting. Anger expressed in this way is nothing to be ashamed of. It can open up a discussion that leads to a solution.
There are, however some situations in which diplomacy and reticence are recommended. In these situations find other outlets for channelling anger. Dancing, hiking, sculpting, music, yoga and writing are just a few of the many outlets that you can put that aggressive energy into.
Why am I angry? Finding the answer is the first step.
Is it worth it? No, it’s not. However, you might not be able to stop the feeling.
How do I express it without losing composure? After identifying solid reasons state your displeasure.
It’s common for people to bring up irrelevant things during an argument. These are past issues where anger was repressed. The repressed anger rises to the surface and adds more pressure in the midst of a quarrel, making things harder to control. When past issues are resolved all focus can be placed on the present problem.
Although we control our reactions people can still say things to upset us so anger control is essential.